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Saturday, June 11, 2005

Social Change?

Now, I am really not sure if anyone would review this movie from this point of view, but since I am not a good reviewer (yeah - that is what I have come to conclude recently), I just post bits and pieces which I feel there is something different to be talked about...

The movie I am talking of is "D" and at the cost of offending people who like it, I must accept that I sort of got bored with the movie. But one scene in the movie caught my attention. This was the scene when Deshmukh's girl friend takes him to the new bungalow she had bought for the two of them. She says she had been saving money for last three years for this. And then she shows him around the place and describes each and every thing. It was obviously grand and costly. Through most of this showing around, the music was going on and there were no dialogues. At the end of it somehow I suspected that he would refuse to live in that place, which has been bought with her money and all that crap. And with whatever experience of Hindi Movies I have, I do not think I was terribly wrong, but as they say that biggest caveat of Time Series Analysis is that it tries to predict future with past data!! So, here is some change coming up. Of course, I felt good about it. I do hope that it does represent some social change, some changes in mentality, where the women need not be seen as only a 'second earning member' and anything done with what she earns should not be something one feels uncomfortable with...

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13 Comments:

  • At Sun Jun 12, 07:32:00 AM 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    There is more to a self reliant woman than just earnings. I would be happy to get a working and confident wife because she will be the one to be the inspiration for my daughters!! Society is getting more and more mature every day. I will not say that the male super ego is extinct but it has definitely reduced to a great extent.

     
  • At Sun Jun 12, 04:17:00 PM 2005, Blogger Jaya said…

    Agreed that "There is more to a self reliant woman than just earnings." But earning is still important and in past, an attempt to play down its importance has led to a ridiculous "open-mindedness" regarding women's position in family and society.

     
  • At Mon Jun 13, 08:02:00 AM 2005, Blogger Prabhat Kumar said…

    Nice post as always by you..if u get time do visit my blog

    and leave some comments if u have..

     
  • At Mon Jun 13, 04:27:00 PM 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Hehe!!!! Director of 'D' would never have thought this way.

     
  • At Mon Jun 13, 04:41:00 PM 2005, Blogger Jaya said…

    Yeah and if he hasn't that's the good news. A change has not really been brought about if people consciously think of doing it. It is when it starts happening on its own that the change has really taken place.

     
  • At Tue Jun 14, 01:01:00 PM 2005, Blogger Saurabh Nanda said…

    I would never live in a house bought by my girlfriend/wife. It's about control. A very important part of my life, my home, would then be under someone else's control. One fine day I have a terrible fight and she can chuck me out.

    Either mine - or 50-50 :-)

    Nandz.

     
  • At Wed Jun 15, 01:09:00 PM 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    true change yet to come...........

     
  • At Thu Jun 16, 01:52:00 PM 2005, Blogger Ayan Bhattacharya said…

    The true change will happen when such scenes not only get included without the conscious thought of the auteur, but also evoke no conscious response from viewers.

     
  • At Thu Jun 16, 06:35:00 PM 2005, Blogger Jaya said…

    Agreed :-))

    But I, as a viewer, can not be taken as an average viewer on this issue, since I have developed almost an academician's interest in it (without claiming an acamedician's depth of knowledge). So, I tend to get conscious, when something related comes up!!

     
  • At Thu Jun 16, 09:14:00 PM 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Anyone can see apple falling, but it takes a Newton to see gravity behind it.
    Isn't it.;-)

     
  • At Mon Jun 20, 05:24:00 PM 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Jaya,
    good observation..I did not notice it when I saw the movie,but now that you have talked about it...it becomes pronounced.

    I am not too sure if D's female protagonist managed to buy her house legally.


    there are a lot of things which Indian women are doing n are getting noticed for( n I am not referring to Mallika Sheravat alone).

    But even today there are things that they cant do legally. For instance, in order to make any investment, a woman needs to have her father's or husband's signature on the papers. A man is not required to have his mother's or wife's legal permission. So in other words, you can earn, but you cant save for yourself or invest in your own future w/o a man's assitance.

    Hence, now, the question is what can one do besides cribbing? I personally asked my father to sign the documents. Why? because it was easier.
    But their are others who have files PILs. Geeta Hariharan for instance ,filed a PIL ,when she was not allowed to get her sons' admissions in Mother's international(A premium Delhi School) as she was not their father. So a Ph.D, a renowned author is not considered responsible enough for her decision regarding her childer. She won the case. But that's beside the point. Why have such laws in the first place?
    Because the constition has founding fathers and not mothers?
    I dont know...

     
  • At Mon Jun 20, 05:43:00 PM 2005, Blogger Jaya said…

    Neha, I am sure there are several such contradictions existing in the social/political/legal institutions world over... And undoubtedly they are highly frustrating. But the legal institutions are often a mirror of social institutions. One reason you yourself have pointed out. But ultimately be it men or women, their thoughts are shaped by the existing social mindset. I am not sure how many women (even if they were given a chance) would then have conceptualized it otherwise (even today, the percentage thinking that way would be outrageously high!).

    Once the social institutions change, hopefully legal institutions would change too. It will take time no doubt, but let's be hopeful.

    There are other aspects to be sure - but later...

     
  • At Fri Nov 11, 01:57:00 AM 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Nice one. I too feel very frustrated on watching such things, specially in movies which can really bring substantial changes in any society.

    However, I have an additional comment on this serious issue.

    Well to a big (not some) extent, even females are (specially from the middle & upper class status in Indian society) resposible for this irritating male-chauvinism. How ?? ...

    Believe it or not, almost 95% of the females I have seen in my life were treated/educated equally and in many cases were given more priviliges by their parents/society. Yet many of them have infact not made any use of this change. Most of them have a typical mindset of finding a partner who is earning more than them.

    I am pretty sure that the probablity of finding a girl from IIT-IIM ;) who is willing to marry a school teacher is lesst than 0.1 and around 0.6 for the opposite case (guy IIT-IIM and school teacher girl)

    I have made one more observation, which might sound harsh to the female readers. Typically, I have seen many (of course not all) females in my life who pursue higher education just to get a life partner who is having a decent status in the society. Nothing can be more frustrating to see an MS-mathematics or even a PhD (mathematics) girl sitting idle at home or doing some kind of time-pass job.

    Of course there are many (not some) guys specially in middle-lower class who do not want to see their wives working. But succumbing to pressures even after having a MS/PhD depicts weakness. If not weakness, then they are exploiting and enjoying the situation in society where they dont have to face the real world.

    I believe there should be conscious efforts (contradicting with Jaya) by movie directors to show women who not only give lessons to the opposite sex but also to the female crowd.

    Having said all this, I must admit that it was indeed a nice observation and discussion.

     

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